A wise counsel is a right piece of advice that helps you take the right decision. Right decisions are important because poor decisions have consequences that can affect not only your life but also the people around you. For instance, if you marry a lady and you begin to have issues, it won’t affect only you; it will affect your parents, friends and children even 20 years from now. Your decision now is not only affecting you but things in your future. It is important we begin to realize counsel is important. Jesus took counsel.
For every major decision you have to make in life you need counsel. A lot of people take major decisions in life without involving any person assuming they know it all. Though, some people do involve the wrong set of people.
The issue of marriage is not a joke and I don’t think you should take it lightly. This is the essence of the Singles Fellowship, to know if you are in a right relationship or not and to know if you are prepared for a relationship or not.
There was a man that dated different ladies – a serial dater. He thought every lady had a problem until he started to attend Singles Fellowship. After a few months, he realised he was the problem. Counseling helped him to realise where the problem laid. Some people who are in relationships sometimes when their partners offend them a little, the next thing they say is “I will break up with you.”
Thus, before you go into a relationship
, have you received any counsel?
There are some things in life which are big that you can’t just jump into. Even Jesus Christ always received counsel, because He said that it is whatever the Father tells Him that He does. If Jesus took time to receive counsels, who do you think you are that you don’t need counsel? Don’t assume that you know everything.
Proverbs 12:15 says “fools think their own way is right but the wise listens to others.” It is important to know that it is only fools that think they know all things; they don’t need counsel. There are some major decisions you will have to take in life, subject them to counsel.
Proverbs 11:14 “also says that where there is no counsel, the people fall. But in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.” This means that failure abounds where there is no counsel. You can be sure there is going to be failure when you don’t have any counsel. I don’t want you to take counsel lightly when taking major decisions in life; decisions such as marriage – who you would marry.
Sometimes you may be going through a turbulent time in life and you are confused, you don’t know which way to take and you are at a cross-road. God will bring people your way so that you can get counsels from them. I’m not saying you can’t or shouldn’t pray or that God won’t reveal solutions to you; but because life is about relationships, God sometimes uses people to speak to you.
Counsel is important because when you talk to someone it increases productivity. The Bible says one shall chase a thousand, two shall chase 10,000. The Bible also says that, “two are better than one, for they have a good reward for their labour.” Sometimes, when you are discussing with someone, you find out that there are some things you have not considered. You may be looking at it at the present and somebody may be giving you a whole picture. You may think “that is the best decision for me now” but if you take that decision, it may be a short term gain. But there is something called long term investment. Perhaps, you may be mortgaging something now.
For instance, when people get married and they are having issues, the first thing they say is “maybe I will call it a quit with this relationship or marriage.” Quitting at that point may satisfy your happiness but it is a short term happiness. There is a guy I counselled when he was having serious issues of infidelity on the side of the wife and he said that the Bible says you can only divorce on the ground of adultery. But Jesus told them that “I permitted it because your hearts are hardened.”
1 Corinthians 6: 12 says “All are lawful unto me, but all things are expedient.” In Message version, it says “just because something is technically legal doesn’t mean it is spiritually appropriate.” So, that is wisdom from the Bible. Sometimes people say they are right, rather than focusing on doing the right thing. It is important you get counsel so that you don’t humiliate your life. Lack of Counsel causes failure and frustration. Saul died because he didn’t get counsel or he followed wrong counsel, he lost the throne. People are frustrated when they follow wrong counsels.
Sometimes, you don’t have to despise the counsel of people close to you. In 2006, when the stock market was good, a man wanted to take loan to buy stock and use the house they were living in as the collateral security but his wife refused to sign, asking what if stocks falls. Three months later, the market went down. They would have lost their only house. The wife of Pilate warned him about Jesus Christ not to have anything to do with His crucifixion. It was a good and wise counsel but he despised it. Sometimes, your children may give you wise counsels but a whole lot of people despise them.
May the Lord help you to understand the need to seek for wise and spiritual counsels before you take your decisions.
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